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Love in the social and historical context Although love is generally a personal experience, in fact, the society in which people live has comprehensive control over people's choice of love and love objects. Human societies tend to encourage romantic relationships because pairs of individuals can help each other. Parents may also influence their children's spouse choices, intentionally or unintentionally, by choosing specific neighbors, sending their children to specific schools, etc. Social proof is also very important for whether a relationship can move forward. A set of . data shows that more than 95 percent of people are married to someone of the same ethnic background as themselves. When a partner of the same race is chosen, parents and peers tend to be more favorable for their choice, while combinations of different races are more opposed [4]. The Greek and Hebrew concepts of love The Greeks coined three concepts of love: phileo, agape, and eros. Companion love refers to love based on friendship, selfless love refers to altruistic love based on concern for the well-being of others, and physical love refers to sexual love that seeks sexual expression and fulfillment[4]. In ancient Greece, the attitude towards love and sex was inclusive and open, and love and sex between the opposite and the same sex were free. It can be seen from ancient Greek mythology that the gods had open sexual relations, and mortals were free to fall in love and enjoy sex[13]. Love in Medieval EuropeThe concept of love in the 12th century was influenced by economic, political, and family structures. In medieval Europe, the marriages of the children of nobles were often arranged for the heirs of other kingdoms seeking marriage due to the quest for wealth and power. So love is no longer connected to marriage, but is conceptualized as a kind of psychological adoration that can be seen even outside of marriage or between people of the same sex, which is spiritual and romantic. As the forms of kingdom and royal family were abolished after the Revolution, wealth and power ceased to be exclusive to the nobility, the role of love began to change, and marriage was no longer just a political and economic arrangement[4]. Love in the American Colonial PeriodLove in the American Colonial period was similar to the Middle Ages, where marriage was seen as a transaction between families of status. Suitors express their admiration for their daughters to the father of the girl they like, and the father usually negotiates the amount of the dowry with the boy's family to increase the boy's incentive to marry the girl. However, love is not completely lacking, and if a girl does not want to marry the person chosen by her father, her father may refuse to pay the dowry, or she may persuade her father to tell the suitor that she does not like it[4]. In ancient China, Hegel believed that in ancient China, due to the general lack of subjectivity, the consciousness of love as a general category did not exist, but was assimilated into the social structure of the state through marriage. Chinese scholar Dai Wei also believes that the love of ancient Chinese was internalized into the framework of heaven and earth, husband and wife, yin and yang, and Qiankun. These views are more general, but to a certain extent, they reveal that the ancient Chinese sense of love is almost uncertain. From ancient times to modern times, there are few articles and monographs devoted to love, and theories about love are not very developed. On the whole, traditional Chinese culture is deeply influenced by Confucianism, and people are more subtle and introverted in the expression of feelings, and the feelings between men and women are not inclined to talk about "love", but towards family, marriage, human ethics, and etiquette, emphasizing the stability of the family and passing on the family lineage, and the germination of the erotic relationship between the sexes is difficult to survive in the gap between the authoritarian political system and the patriarchal ethics and morality. "Marriage" from superiors to subordinates, "marriages" for political or economic gains, "finger marriages" when children are not yet born... Reflecting that marriage is more of a bridge between one family and another family [14][15]. In the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, Qin and Han dynasties, marriage and love were relatively free, young men and women could fall in love freely, and husbands and wives could also divorce, such as Liu Lanzhi, the heroine of "Peacock Flying Southeast", still had people come to the door to propose marriage after the divorce. Since the Qin and Han dynasties, the restraint on female chastity has gradually been strengthened, encouraging "fierce women not to change their husbands". The social atmosphere of the Tang Dynasty was relatively open, and there were many examples of princesses remarrying and widows remarrying. However, from the Song Dynasty onwards, feudal ethics such as the "Three Platforms and Five Constants" suppressed women, and love was no longer free [13]. During the Ming and Qing dynasties, when Chinese capitalism was in its infancy, the earliest burgher class appeared, and the literati representing the social interests and ideological tendencies of this class expressed their life ideals and love consciousness in their own creations, such as "The Peony Pavilion", "Peach Blossom Fan", "Dream of Red Mansions", "Three Words and Two Beats" and so on. However, the germination of these love consciousness was very fragile and difficult to compete with the powerful feudal etiquette in real life, and the ideological cage forged by the feudal concept of family, gender concept, and life ethics still bound people's minds in the life at that time [15]. The theory of the origin of loveEvolutionary theory holds that love is an evolutionary mechanism that exists to sustain couples in cooperation for better care of newborns. According to Helen Fisher, an American bioanthropologist, the strongest love relationships last about four years, a period of time that is just right for babies to be born and most in need of parental care. If the couple has a second child, the "four-year itch" is extended to seven years. The main criticism of this theory is that the idea that women and children need to depend on men to survive" is no longer true today, and that women can have and raise children independently[4].
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